Make sure your worst enemy doesn’t live between your own two ears.
Sage advice from Laird Hamilton. And that guy is a stud, he’s even married to Gabrielle Reece.
To be at peace, and like and enjoy that voice that is constantly in our head, is key to living a complete life. What this boils down to is you must of course like yourself, but even more so you must accept yourself. We must all learn to accept all of the parts that make us who we are. The good, the bad, the ugly, and the dark places. This journey is not easy. In my opinion it takes a courageous person to be willing to take a good long look under the hood and explore the parts that work AND the corroded pieces. And to learn to accept and like it all. Self acceptance is huge.
When you get down to it each of us is living the lead part in our own movies. We are the main character and everyone else in our lives are characters. Some are lead characters such as spouses, children, parents, close friends. Some play large parts like bosses or maybe neighbors. Others are smaller parts like our children’s school teachers or the guy who works the deli counter. The one constant throughout the movie that is each our lives is the main character – you. You eat, sleep, play, workout, raise your kids, kiss your significant other, mow the yard, read a book, do your job, etc, with the person inside your head day in and day out. If the guy in your head isn’t telling you good things about yourself, it can be a dark and lonely in there.
Many components make up the mental health aspect of being a complete man. Things from self-confidence to facing fear to going for what you want to developing and maintaining healthy and happy relationships. We will discuss a wide variety of topics and I look forward to hearing your thoughts as well as we progress on this journey together.
The central tenant to all of this is accepting yourself fully. Many of us hold on to events that happened or parts of our childhood or a horrible relationship as moments that impacted us in a negative way and it becomes a way to play the victim and allow others to take our power. It takes constant vigilance but you must not ever allow others or circumstances to take away your power. Remember, nobody owes you anything. Life isn’t always fair. No one is coming to rescue you.
The power is all yours to lead the type of life you want – learn to accept yourself, own your happiness, and create the kind of life you want. Be the CEO of Company You. It’s your life, no one else is going to live it for you. More importantly, it’s not anyone else’s job to ensure your happiness. That task is all yours. Way to many people allow the people or the circumstances in their lives to control their happiness. Turn that needle so it works the other way around – you surround yourself with the people that add value and happiness to your life. Put yourself in situations that contribute to your well being and your satisfaction in life. The power is there for you to take -so take it.
Onward.
Mat A.